ginapanzinolyman September 24, 2020
“If you’re going through Hell Keep on going, don’t slow down If you’re scared, don’t show it You might get out Before the devil even knows you’re there… ” -Rodney Atkins I heard this song on the radio today. Whether you’re a fan of country music or not, the song “If you’re going through hell”, recorded by Rodney Atkins, may strike a chord with you, if you’re going through a difficult time right now. For me personally, I got chills when I heard those lyrics. It couldn’t be more true. When I’m going through a rough patch in my life, I feel like I’m going through hell! It’s devastating. Whether it’s financial, work related, health issues, relationship problems or all of the above, it feels like hell! Struggling with a rough patch myself, I got to thinking. I thought about the stages of grief. To some extent, I go through these stages when terrible things happen. Denial is first. That’s the ‘What the hell? I can’t believe this is happening! Are you kidding me?!’ thoughts. It may be my Italian roots, but I quickly move to the next stage… anger. I get mad at the world. Of course, i try not to and I’m careful not to take it out on the people around me, but it happens. After all, we’re only human, right? I rant on and on about my problem, with several choice words and the occasional slam of my hand on the table. Not a pretty site. Then the bargaining begins. Praying and begging ensues, “If YOU just take care of this for me God, I’ll do…”. Usually a desperate plea, promising something deep down I know I won’t do. Sad but true. Which leads to sadness or depression. For me, I’ve learned that I tend to stay in this stage the longest. I believe this is a dangerous zone and I am aware of that. My solution… I have a good cry and talk to ‘my people’. You know your people, your inner circle. I lean on those I love the most. Talking to my loved ones, who I know will listen, validate my feelings, show true care and concern is how I get out of this stage as quickly as possible. Finally, acceptance is key. Life happens and it’s not always good. I then realize that ‘it is what it is’. These are the cards I’ve been dealt and I need to play my hand. That’s where Rodney Atkins’ song comes into play. When I feel like I’m going through a tough period in my life, I need to push through. Don’t stop and hang out in the anger or depression stage, keep on moving. The devil likes for us to stay sad and depressed, so move on quickly. This also reminds me of my favorite quote, “You have a choice. You can throw in the towel or you can use it to wipe the sweat off your face.” Take care of your mental emotional health. Do what you have to do to progress to acceptance and come up with a solution! I hope this helps, at least in some way, if you’re struggling with something right now. Remember to turn to loved ones for support, take care of yourself, give yourself a little grace, keep on moving and go ahead… live your best life